Recently I’ve been contributing some lists of the most popular songs for the Father/Daughter Dance and the Mother/Son Dance. A Weddzilla Blog reader posed a great question, “What other dances are being done at receptions?” Her concern was that there seems to be a lot of spotlight dances — and is it too much?
In the early 80′s it seemed everyone was adding a “Wedding Party Dance” into the mix. I understood the purpose behind it, get the wedding party to rev up the dance floor early. Some tricks involved having each member of the wedding party go out into the crowd and grab a guest, turning the first dance for everyone into what we all knew as kids as a “Snowball Dance”. It was fun during it’s time but more often than not, my clients were concerned that the single members of the wedding party were dancing by themselves or with another married member of the wedding party. Not to mention, the spouse of that married wedding participant was left watching from the audience. Awkward, yes. So in 2011, I rarely see Wedding Party Dances as part of the must do checklist.
One dance that has ebbed and flowed in popularity with the economy is “The Money Dance”. Also known as “The Dollar Dance” or “The Honeymoon Dance” this one seems to get an enthusiastic YES or NO and sometimes I’ve seen couples argue over it. Yes, it can mean some extra mad money for you honeymoon but consider if your guests will warm up to paying to dance with you or not.
Another dance that has been done a lot lately, can be implemented early in the evening after the formal dances and after the guests have had a chance to dance for a few songs: The Anniversary Dance or The Marriage Dance. Djs have been seen doing this for years with the purpose of finding out which couple has been married the longest. Most of the time all the married couples are invited to join the bride and groom on the dance floor for this dance. Then the DJ asks couples to be seated if they’ve been married less than one year. Next, less than five years, ten years and so on until the longest married couple is revealed. It’s a great opportunity to honor marriage and a very lucky couple who may not have expected to be in the spot light. Some DJs will even ask the happy couple what their secret to a long marriage is and do an on-the-spot interview. This can either be fun and motivating or make people nervous, depending on the DJ, the delivery and in some cases if the parents of the bride and groom are still married or divorced. I can think of at least five things that will immensely improve on this dance — but to protect some of the change ups and surprises, can only share those tips with my clients.
So, those are at least three more spotlight dances that you could add to your line up. My word of advice is consider your guests. They’ll happily watch the First Dance, Father/Daughter Dance and Mother/Son Dance but beyond that you may be pushing their attention span.
Recently a groom’s mom suggested we have special dances for the bride and father-in-law, groom and mother-in-law, bride and grandfather, groom and grandmother, in-laws with in-laws and so on. This was politely and wisely nixed by the bride-to-be.
Keep it simple, keep it fun and keep it moving!