You might be happily planning to tie the knot yourself and celebrate your love, but spare a thought for those wedding guests you are going to invite who are not so lucky in love and what they might be feeling on your big day. Keep in mind the many things your single wedding guests are doing to accommodate your wedding day. This will include: finding something to wear, the extensive shopping and amount of time it takes to find the perfect gift for the newly weds, and then of course there is finding a date or as it is now called, a plus one.
Weddings naturally are all about couples not just the new Mr & Mrs, but all their married friends and families. While some singletons are more than happy to eschew the offer to bring a plus one, others worry for weeks about who they can take and how they can find someone who won’t get drunk and scream in delight when the DJ plays Karma Chameleon
Sooner or later at every wedding someone will ask you “Who did you come with?” and if we are honest most of us want to be able to introduce our date or other half proudly, to be met with a surprised raising of eyebrows and sly wink in a “Haven’t you done well” kind of way. The alternative is being able to admit you are on your own. This way your admission will be met with a knowing nod and sympathetic tilt of the head in a “Don’t worry, it’ll be your turn one day” kind of way.
The Fijians believe that the god Nangganangga, (yes, that is a real god, and no, we don’t know how to pronounce it either) who watches over married couples, will not let a bachelor enter Fijian paradise and will turn him to ash if he dies before he is married. Therefore if you have decided to throw a Fijian themed wedding (they’re all the rage this year) and the Best Man is still single, he’d better hope there is an attractive bridesmaid present!
So while planning your wedding, spare a thought for those single folk you’ll be inviting. Many people meet their future wife or husband at a wedding. Perhaps one day, some happy couple will be telling the story of how they met at your wedding. There will also be those that will be arriving and leaving alone. These people do not want sympathy and they probably will not want clumsy matchmaking and introductions to your second cousin’s newly single friend either!
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Kye Harman writes for www.simplythebestgroom.com the wedding speech experts.