Your big day is coming, but are you ready to take on the task of wedding planning? Many brides feel blindsided by the enormous amount of work required when putting together their perfect day. Not everyone can afford to hire a wedding planner. If you are doing it all, then there are some things you should know to avoid finding yourself in a stressful rut. Your engagement and wedding day are supposed to be happy, positive times in both of your lives. Make sure it stays that way from the moment he proposes until the last guest leaves the reception!
If You Don’t Have a Schedule – Make One!
A schedule will be your best friend right now, so if you haven’t made one, it is time to grab a calendar and get to work. Even if your wedding date is still a year or two away, you need to have a road map to make sure you pace yourself as you complete each task. You will fret less and plan much more efficiently. The best part is that you will be far less likely to overlook something major if everything is spelled out in a calendar or personal planner. Online and mobile tools are available or you can purchase an old school day planner or desk calendar. Remember to include names, phone numbers, financial details (such as deposit information) and anything else you think might be needed. Do this and your mental state will thank you weeks before the wedding!
Take Time Out Just for You
Ironically, the wedding day is supposed to be all about the bride yet many forget about themselves as they wallow in the overwhelming task of event planning. Don’t forget that you need to escape once a while, especially right now! Make a point to do something you enjoy regularly. Take a break and indulge in something you love. Relax at home and watch a movie, listen to music, work on a hobby or schedule lunch with a friend. Also remember to maintain a healthy diet and leave time for a good fitness routine.
Don’t Lose Touch with What’s Really Important
Many couples find that stress puts them on edge, which can be terrible for a relationship. During a time when you are committing to love and cherish one another for the rest of your lives, it seems silly to lose touch with the wonderful things you share. Don’t let wedding day headaches come between you and your groom. Work together as a team and remember to continue planning outings and dates as a couple. Make sure the romantic flame stays lit and your wedding day will be even more memorable for both of you!
Keep Things in Perspective
It’s easy to start worrying about the little things. The invitations must be perfect. Pew ribbons must be tied evenly. The cake icing must create the perfect hue. Believe it or not, the people who come to your wedding are most likely not going to remember these tiny details. Most will not recall exactly what flavor the cake was or what kind of font was used on your invites. They won’t remember the entire playlist during the reception or what shoes your bridesmaids wore.
Instead, they will recall the fond memories created and feelings felt as they witnessed people they love and adore starting a new life together. Keep things in perspective and don’t lose your cool when something that doesn’t truly matter goes awry. All that stress will be for nothing as years go by and your friends and family recall what was said, done and felt rather than what was worn, ate and played.
Realize that your closest friends and family time, money and energy went into helping you celebrate a new beginning. Thanking your wedding party is especially important! Don’t forget to say thank you with a hand written card and appreciation gift for your bridesmaids to commemorate the special occasion.
This Day Is What You Make It
Anyone who has ever seen an episode of Bridezilla knows that a mean, stressed bride can put a serious damper on the occasion. This day will be whatever you make it, so remember to keep a positive attitude. You should look forward to the occasion because your future is bright! You are starting life with someone you love and many exciting experiences are waiting just down the road and beyond. Make sure you enjoy every second of the journey by focusing on the good things. When something goes wrong simply pick yourself up, brush off your gown and smile because you are about to move forward into a life of wedded bliss. A positive attitude is contagious and your friends, family and bridal party will certainly catch it, too!
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Shel Gatto is a newlywed travel enthusiast with a passion for writing. Mother of one-month-old Ian, Shel resides in Fort Meade, Maryland awaiting her husband’s return from his third term in Iraq.