Courtesy of Nathaniel Hawthorne
I will be married tomorrow forever after. I am not nervous, but the butterflies in my tummy are Amazonian. I feel so many, many things.
I am happy to tears constantly. I am so excited, and I am so sure of Shawn and Me. I just know that Shawn is the right man for me; every day I am reminded when we discuss everything from having kids to what to eat for dinner. It helps that we agree on most things, but it is nice that even if we don’t agree, we always work through everything in a respectful and loving way.
We have worked so hard for so long at this wedding that we are strangely ready to be over it! Don’t get us wrong; we are looking forward to the wedding more than anything we have anticipated thus far in our lives, but we’re ready for the marriage. We want life to be quiet again so we can snuggle down like bunnies with our animals and watch Adult Swim at night until we fall asleep.
Honestly, we’re just ready to take our life back from wedding planning! Before wedding planning, being bunnies daily was our common law status. After we’re married, things will go back to that status, but we’ll be able to do things we want to do, like fix up our (soon-to-be found) new house together and get scars from it. We want to have babies and raise them into big people. We want to walk together, holding hands forever. We’ll be living just like it was, but now it’s in 3-D! WE are not changing, the status of the RELATIONSHIP is.
We are making a promise to be together forever no matter what. Just as people change, feelings change; you cannot simply marry for emotional reasons alone. It is not enough. Marriages go through periods of YEARS where things might be just “not the same as before,” but the couples who stay together during those rough spots usually fall in love with their spouses all over again.
My only advice to married people: love the other person as you want to be loved, and stay together. For better or worse.
So on this day, my last day as a single lady, to all my single ladies: Just don’t rush your life to get to any point, whether it be married or any other status. Waiting forever for Mr. Right is better than having a beautiful short-lived wedding with Mr. RightNow.
And always remember that everything happens for a reason! Everything.
I love you all, and all your words of support and kindness have really changed my life. I wish I could hug you all in person and share what you each have personally given me. You’re beautiful!