When I was little, I dreamed of my wedding. I longed to meet Mr. Perfect, I imagined what my new name could be, and even put together a full wedding plan (seating chart that contained my whole class, honeymoon location, and self-designed wedding dress) in 6th grade. Brian, on the other hand, admits he couldn’t wait to meet Ms. Right and marry her… but the wedding? He could care less about.

For example… check out our engagement pictures. Time to be serious? Or time to pretend you’re sneaking up on me in an ally?

Picture taken by Erin Hession Photography

Ok, so I love the picture- it’s very Brian- but it’s a little visual representation of how he treats wedding planning. He’s been great about voicing his few opinions and going with the flow for the rest of planning. Every once in a while he’d say “I really want this” or “I hate that,” but he was supportive and understanding. Ultimately though, it was my wedding, not his. Needless to say, he is EXTREMELY relieved at our change in circumstances.

This whole wedding- wait, no… this whole YEAR- has been stressful. I was laid off and out of work for a few months, we ran into $3,000 of additional financial woes, our roof leaked, and then even today- Brian’s car broke down… two and a half hours away. Financially, the stress kills us. But having a wedding to plan on top of it is miserable. And for Brian… it’s very easy for him to say “I’m over it!” It’s my dream day, not his. We’re both focused and excited for the end result- our marriage- but he will openly admit that he wishes we eloped! And I’ll tell ya what… most days, I wish it too!

Sometimes I wish Brian was more excited about our day- but after all we’ve been through in 2009, we are just lucky we’ve made it through without being institutionalized! How involved is your man in planning? Do you have to reign him in, or is he an innocent bystander?